Today's Letter
hey leahpeah,
i’m thinking about being a professional singer when i get out of high school or maybe even now if my dad will let me. the problem is that i don’t know if i’m really a good singer or not. and, like, i’m afraid to ask my friends because what if i really do suck? i think i could be really good.
steph
Dearest Steph,
Have you watched TV lately? American Idol is back on for a new season. Sadly, I�m a junky for that show. As I�m watching them pick people, I�m amazed at the courage some of those kids have. Dude! They know they are going to be on national TV and they have the guts to get up there and be open to criticisms. My favorite was the Asian young man that sang Ricky Martin’s She Bangs. He was a treasure. His comment, �I�ve had no professional training.� followed closely by, �I came here to try my best and I did. I have no regrets.� (or something like that) stole my heart.
Anyway, my point is that sometimes you have to put yourself out there and take a risk that might make or break your singing career. That doesn’t mean that if you bomb, your life is over. It just means you might want to only sing in the shower. That’s what I do.
Good luck.
i wish you the best,
lp
Girl Power
These shirts have bothered me since the first time I saw them. I would never buy one for my daughter, but she hasn’t asked. She’s too smart to think they are clever instead of what they are: demeaning and sending the wrong message.
Girl Power Gone too Far?Dana Williams, Staff Writer for Tolerance.org, explores the issue:
Marilyn Quisenberry, a school psychologist at Lindero Canyon Middle School in Agoura Hills, CA. does not see the trend as a “feminist” plot against pre-teen boys or even as intolerance of boys. Instead, it points to a general acceptance in society of inappropriate behaviors, she said.
Heather Johnston Nicholson, research director for Girls Inc. said, “I think it’s funny when people take the ‘Hooters’ shirts and turn them around in ways that bring attention to stereotypes that demean women,” she said. “But name calling isn’t funny or acceptable no matter what group it’s targeted at. These shirts are simply substituting one power message for another.”
Besides my daughter I have three boys I love very much and I wouldn’t want them to be hurt by these shirts. It just seems stupid.
I'd be a Mad Cow, Too.
When I was growing up, cows didn’t really have an appetite for other cows or for eating chicken parts. They wanted to eat grass. They were herbivores. Which makes me wonder why feeding cow blood and chicken wastes to cattle ever seemed like a good idea? No wonder the cows are getting mad.
This seems a little DUH-ish:
“Also banned is the use of composted “poultry litter” as a feed ingredient for cows. The litter consists of bedding, spilled feed, feathers and fecal matter swept from the floors of chicken coops. The ingredient that worries health officials is the spilled feed, because chicken feed can legally contain meat and bone meal rendered from beef.
Animals can no longer be fed “plate waste,” the agency said, meaning the meat and other scraps that diners leave on their plates in restaurants and that is rendered into the meat and bone meal added to feed.”
Let’s try to not make our animals into cannibals, shall we?
Today's Letter
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From: kirk “hance”
Date: Sat, January 24, 2004 3:53 pm
To: ask@leahpeah.com
Priority: Normal
Dear Kirk from the UK,
I can tell by your letter that you must be extremely upset about something. The fact that you sent the very same message twice suggests insistence. The fact that it�s incoherent suggests you must have been beside yourself with worry. Alas, your mind all a jumble; your little fingers typing away but making no sense�.or maybe your fake nails are too long?
If I could, I�d like to try and decipher your message.
Umm… Nope. I got nothing.
best,
leahpeah
Surreal Saturday
Yesterday was a little on the surreal side.
Today was spent recovering with a short episode of what felt like car queasiness during a private php lesson from the master, Joe.
I was the key-note speaker at an education conference in Ramona. That was followed by a question and answer period with a preacher on my left and 2 shrinks on my right. They kept referencing my speech in their comments. And I kept thinking, ‘ Are they serious? Do I even belong here?’ But I guess I did.
The afternoon was spent catching up with an old friend and visiting some old haunts.
The evening outdid the rest of the day, if that’s possible. Gavin Kaysen created the most beautiful meal experience for Joe and I. Our names were even on our private menus. The meal included 7 different wines to compliment each delectable morsel. If you haven’t been to El Bizcocho, you gotta go.
More amazing things in the works. I’ll let you all know soon.
Referrers
Sometimes there are good ones.
Like this one: permed+eyelashes+orange+california
The Note
The object in my Treasure Chest
was a large Silver Musical Note:
2 feet tall.
It shone and glimmered in the sun,
but not too brilliant to look at.
I knew it was mine.
It belonged to me.
And, even more,
I wanted it.
The Note was a little heavy:
It had weight to it.
But it was not unpleasant to hold.
The smooth edges made my fingers long
to stroke and dance along the edges and curves.
In my inner ears
I could hear its beautiful song.
It sounded familiar.
It was my voice.
It was my song.
Great Weekend
back from the Utah Trip.
It was great to see my parents and some other family as well. My kids had a great time jumping on the tramp, swinging, shooting air-soft and rubber band guns, typing on Grandma’s old-fashioned typewriter and so many other things.
I finished Joe’s quilt. Finally. It’s only about a year late….
We made some lists for 2004.
The traffic coming home wasn’t too bad at all.
Back to work today.
I’m the key-note speaker this Saturday at a conference. I’m almost ready….
Things feel good.
This is Andrew Phelps. Check it out…the eyes follow you and it’s a little weird but very cool. I hope he lets me know when the new site is up so I can add it to my side-bar.
Project Greenlight has a photo contest.
via emese’s blog.
Today's Letter
Re: Crab Salad
Hi Leah!
I know you won’t mind me using your first name since it sounds like everyone is overly familiar with you. I just wanted to say that I have similar experiences to yours, but only in Libraries and Bookstores.
Although I am a Librarian, people just assume that I am an employee of whatever building I am in. I mean it’s not like I wear my work nametag everywhere I go or anything. I get asked all kinds of directional questions. “Where are the cookbooks?” “Do you know where the bathroom is?” I mean, don’t they see the purse? Employees don’t carry their purses around with them!
Weirdly enough, I can usually answer their questions, even when I am visiting the store for the first time myself, so there are probably a bunch of people walking around thinking that I work in a lot of places I was only visiting.
So what is it about us that make us the ones to chat with? Do we just project friendly/smart/approachable? Do we look like their mothers/sisters/best friends? I for one was at least relieved to read your article and realize that this type of thing happens to other people, but still…
Let me know if you find a way to make yourself more anonymous (so that only the cute guys approach you; not the restroom attendants!).
Karen
Dear Karen,
I actually did it to someone else the other day. I asked her where I could find the cards and she laughed nervously and said, ‘Oh. I don’t work here.’ and hurriedly walked away. I wanted to follow her and tell her, ‘Hey! No worries! This happens to me all the time. You don’t need to run away….I’m not really a weirdo.’ but that might have made me seem even stranger…
I laughed all the way home, though. And it kind of made me feel good in a way. After all, like you said, it’s a relief to know this kind of thing happens to other people. : )
leahpeah
Validation
Margot took me to dinner last night. We discussed reading credit reports, real estate, home loans and my boyfriend, Joe.
Margot paid the bill on the way out. She handed the guy her parking receipt.
M: Could I please get validation?
Guy: You look really pretty today.
You may notice the new ads on my site. I’m trying out Ad-Sense. If it works, it could help my next project get off the ground.
Hey Kids
Just Say No to being distracted while driving. My friend Charles is alive, but it’s a miracle….
Flaming Lips
In an article by David Bernstein in The New York Times about the Flaming Lips being up for a Grammy, you get a sense of why I like them. I also like the White Stripes but I’d be less likely to want to hang out with them or wish they were around when it’s time to clean out the garage…
“Two hours before the White Stripes and the Flaming Lips ushered in 2004 with their double-bill New Year’s Eve concert at the historic Aragon Ballroom here, the Flaming Lips were onstage blowing up oversize balloons, posing inflatable robots and setting up a giant video screen and confetti machine for their extravagant multimedia show.
By contrast, Jack and Meg White, who make up the White Stripes, were mostly backstage until performance time, their roadies, in black suits and bowler hats, guarding their dressing suite. The White Stripes are rock stars, and stars are not supposed to do stagehand work.”
BeLove and Animals
Mickele ‘BeLove‘ Hughes sent me two animal related links today.
1st: Check out the Best of 2003 photos according to Team House, a website for military Special Forces. I’m not sure what these photos have to do with them and their website is lacking in user-friendly ability, but the photos more than make up for the slowness. Here is one of my favorites:

2nd: Mike loves to watch AFV. I hate that show because it looks to me like people actually get hurt in those clips and it makes me sad that people laugh at that…. However, this little clip made me laugh out loud. It takes a minute to download, but be patient…it’s worth it.
Today's Letter
leahpeah,
On your web site you have some pages with your kids names on them but then you dont have anything on those pages. Why? and what is the difference betweem the art therapy paintings and the other paintings? They both look like the same kind.
Francis Lighton from Arizona
Well, Francis, let me start with the first part of your letter: the kids’ pages. I have been torn about putting up stuff from my kids on the internet. On the one hand, they create some really great stuff and I want to put it up there. On the other hand, I worry about there being some kind of backlash that I haven’t thought of. I’m not sure what. I just worry. But, as you can see, I haven’t taken the pages off. So I guess I’m still unsure. I’ll let you know if I ever put content on those pages.
To your second question, art therapy is different in only the name in my opinion. All my art is in some way therapeutic. However, the paintings in the art therapy gallery are specific to some kind of deliberate thought on my part as I was working through some issues pertaining to my traumas as a child and throughout my life. Any art can be used as a way to ‘therapize’ yourself. You only have to have that thought prior and during the making of the piece. Also, many times I’ll look back on a piece and see that it was healing for me to make it and I wasn’t even aware of it at the time. You might want to try it yourself. Just create something out of any medium you’d prefer and give yourself permission to explore your feelings as you do the work. Let me know how it goes.
best,
leahpeah
When I Turned 31
My birthday party at the Corvette Diner. I was there again last night, 2 years later. New photos coming real soon….
a man named Dan…
Dan Landrum is a friend of mine. We belong to the some of the same San Diego clubs etc. We talk on occasion and I’ve always had the sneaking impression that there was way more cool stuff about him than I knew, but I couldn’t put my finger on it until now.
Seva Deva is his resort where people can come and rejuvenate/heal themselves. Here is more about him along with the things he does at Seva Deva. And here is his partner, Carol, and what she contributes.
What an awesome team!
Someday I’d like to go for one of their retreats.
So Retro
I love that after women have climbed by the skin of their teeth out of the pegged hole named ‘only a stay at home mom’, these men are jumping into it in full force. It’s so good to see parenting taken seriously.
As it should be.
Name and address changed to protect the innocent….
Today’s Question:
I have a question, my pastor was given a cell phone by his church so they could reach him in respect to his job and for his convenience. Recently, the deacons requested an itemized bill to study. Is this proper? I feel like they should trust his discretion and be grateful they can reach him if need be.
Thank you.
TSgt XXXXXXXXXX
” Identifying Information Deleted”
Dear TSgt XXXX,
I suppose you read my column entitledCell Phone Protocol and thought I must be an expert on the subject. Sadly, I must confess that beyond having a personal opinion I really have no sound advice for you.
If you are in the position of power in a church, such as a Pastor, one would think that you would be trustworthy to some degree and checking the phone records might sound unnecessary. On the other hand, just knowing that there are checks and balances in place will discourage misuse in the first place. In defense of the deacons, it is their money paying for the phone and if they’d like to make sure there is no misuse going on, I think that’s fine. Smarter, would have been having the billing set up to go to them from the get-go since they are the financial backers.
I’m aware that you might think I’m being insensitive in regards to giving the benefit if the doubt to the man of the cloth. However, he is just a man just like every other man, although perhaps slightly more scrubbed clean under the circumstances. And in light of not being able to walk 3 inches through the news and not hit an article about misuse of power by men in position, in the church or otherwise, I think prudence might win.
best to you,
leahpeah
Photography Links
Joe has a great link for the decline of fashion photography. I SO agree.
Another great link: Diane Arbus is one of my favorite photographers. Michael Kimmelman, the author, gives more than just the brief background per usual.
New Colors
Hey…if you can’t see the new blog colors, then refresh, my friend, refresh.
The Store
The new STORE link is up. All the paintings for sale are there now.
North Magazine
The January issue of North is out. If you aren’t in North County to pick up a copy, you can read what I wrote here:Feature Story
Out of the 50 to Watch, I did those listed below. Click on their names for more information about them.
A Change in the Wind
Some of you might know that I frequently get emails with questions. I’ve answered a few here and there in my blog and I’ve also answered almost every single one in an individual reply email. I’ve decided that I’m going to answer them all here from now on for the benefit of all mankind. That is unless you expressly ask me not to in the email. Then, of course I won’t. Heaven Forfend….
So, if you have a question, send it on over. If I don’t know the answer and can’t find the answer…I’ll just make one up. And be warned…I won’t correct your spelling.
Today’s Question:
Dear leahpeah,
I’m only 14 and everyone else in my class is 15 already. Well, not everyone, but like almost everyone. Almost everyone my age will have their drivers’s licensess before me!!! So, what would you do if you were me? Do you know how to fake being older?
Love,
Simon’s Girlfriend XOXOXOXO
P.S.. i like your one painting with the ocean..!!! It make’s me want to go to the beach!!!!
Dear GF of Simon,
First of all, I’ve noticed that most people your age like to use the !!! button a lot!!! But, here is a tip: less is more.
Second, I don’t think you are really in that bad of a problem. You signed your name Simon’s Girlfriend XOXOXOXO and while I think you might want to take those X’s and O’s and put them away from future use instead of using them up so soon, being Simon’s GF might help you get in at least the passenger’s seat sooner rather than later. Just make sure his hands stay on the driving wheel….
Here’s hoping that Simon is a little bit older than you and smart enough to get you home by dark,
leahpeah
I got sucked in
I watched Donald Trump last night in The Apprentice on NBC. It was fascinating. I didn’t know if I’d like it because I really don’t like reality TV (besides Queer Eye) but I did. The women and men against each other…watching the teams try to come together. It was truly interesting and I’ll be looking for it next week. And the women kicked butt. : )
Also, this is funny and weird. His entire house was wrapped in foil. This report has pictures.
The Governor
I changed my mind. I want to go back to acting. Just Kidding.
I’m starting to like Terminator Schwarzenegger. He’s human.
Tree Salesman
Joe and I went to get a Christmas tree about a week before the big day. We looked everywhere for a place that felt a little bit human instead of a tree killing frenzy. We decided to support Troop some# in TierraSANTA. They were your usual bunch of kids with the supportive parents here and there.
We got up to the open part of the gate. The scent of pine was in the air from trees piled up everywhere. A young man about the age of nine or ten, with hands pushed deep in his pockets to warm his frozen fingers, wearing a flannel shirt and boots, asks us in the utmost serious tone,
“What are you folks here looking for today?”
Joe and I looked at each other, with matching serious faces replied almost in unison,
“Well, a Christmas tree.”
“Step this way.” He outstretched his arm towards the tree piles. “Are you looking for a 7-footer?”
You could see in his manner that he took his job very seriously. We opted for a 5-footer and paid about $25 more for it than we would have at a chop-shop. But we did get a coupon for a free 2-scoop ice cream sundae from Baskin Robbins. Just what you want after freezing in the cold weather looking at trees….
I’ll do it the same way next year.
New Site
or at least a better and improved site: Gordon Training International has launched the new site that I have been working on for them for the past few months.




